In January , Elaine s world flipped upside down What started out as a beautiful new year for the mom of three, turned into a living nightmare when heryear old daughter, Bethany was diagnosed with a terminal brain tumor In the months to come, Elaine not only used her nurses training, she learned to recognize the hand of God on her daughter s life Bethany s Calendar tells the story of Elaine and Bethany s journey and the many ways God helped their family to survive It is a story of fear and faith, commitment and compassion, told with gut wrenching honesty while sharing unwavering faith in God


10 thoughts on “Bethany's Calendar

  1. Kimberly Kimberly says:

    I am sure this took the author a lot of courage and a mustering of a million emotions to put down in a book This book will touch you in a big way especially if your a parent.Its the real life story of a mothers journey with her terminally ill daughter from the beginning of her diagnosis of cancer to the end of her life.Each chapter begins with an excerpt from Bethanys diary Bethany is the daughter of the author Each chapter explores the many scenes, memories, struggles, experiences, questions I am sure this took the author a lot of courage and a mustering of a million emotions to put down in a book This book will touch you in a big way especially if your a parent.Its the real life story of a mothers journey with her terminally ill daughter from the beginning of her diagnosis of cancer to the end of her life.Each chapter begins with an excerpt from Bethanys diary Bethany is the daughter of the author Each chapter explores the many scenes, memories, struggles, experiences, questions and answers and the many blessings from God realized by both Elaine the writer and her daughter.You will cry, there is no doubt, but there are lessons to be learned from this book Advice is given at the end of each chapter as well.Very well done, the chapters are short It is NOT loaded with descriptions and atmosphere, its told plainly, in laymens terms, easy to understand, to the point, that s the way I like it I highly recommend the book


  2. Heidi Morrell Heidi Morrell says:

    Last December , I had the great privilege of meeting this talented author After reading this amazing, touching book , I wish that I would have had the privilege here on Earth to meet dear Bethany Heaven is definitely sweeter knowing we have loved ones waiting for us However , after each of my two babies went Home to be with the Lord after miscarriages , it was His mercy and grace that brought my husband and I , and our little ones at the time through each day I now choose to remember them Last December , I had the great privilege of meeting this talented author After reading this amazing, touching book , I wish that I would have had the privilege here on Earth to meet dear Bethany Heaven is definitely sweeter knowing we have loved ones waiting for us However , after each of my two babies went Home to be with the Lord after miscarriages , it was His mercy and grace that brought my husband and I , and our little ones at the time through each day I now choose to remember them every year when I place personalized Christmas ornaments on our tree However , the other day I had a doctor appointment , and one of the questions on the paperwork had to do with how many pregnancies vs Babies I was tempted to write something about how they all are babies but , I chose not to I have come to the point , afterthan 17 years since my first miscarriage the hardest physically and emotionally , that if the topic comes up in conversation , I am not ashamed or uncomfortable stating that I have 6 children 2 reside in Heaven , and the other 4 blessings are , at the moment , apart of my life every day Our oldest is getting ready to graduate high school What I have learned the most from Bethany s Calendar , is that the people the Lord has entrusted me to live with , mother , and teach every day , are precious gifts from God Because each day is planned by Him, I am going to strive to live each day.with His guidance , and show those people just how important they are to Him and me If you have walked the road of the death of a child , but you haven t read this book , yet, I would advise you to consider pacing yourself as you read After each chapter , if I wasn t throwing away multiple tissues , I needed to evaluate my circumstances to see if I was needed by someone I also chose to read a lighthearted , Christian fiction book alongside this one I waited until our spring break to begin reading , and finished in just under 2 weeks Yes, this is the type of book that needs to be read small sections at a time Don t skip any part of it God s Word stands as it has for thousands of years , and will never fail Just like He will never leave us or forsake us


  3. Lisa Lisa says:

    Poignant reflection and brave advice for the grieving.From the author s introduction of her family heartbreak, through the honest and vulnerable challenges of home and social life through this difficult time, to the joy of remembering, Bethany s Calendar will touch every reader.The one thing Elaine Cooper was certain she never do after she realized a dream of writing fiction based on family history was the write about the death of her daughter to cancer It took a decade before Cooper heeded the Poignant reflection and brave advice for the grieving.From the author s introduction of her family heartbreak, through the honest and vulnerable challenges of home and social life through this difficult time, to the joy of remembering, Bethany s Calendar will touch every reader.The one thing Elaine Cooper was certain she never do after she realized a dream of writing fiction based on family history was the write about the death of her daughter to cancer It took a decade before Cooper heeded the gentle nudges and was able to put the story into perspective and make itthan a reflection, but also a guide to help others who are in grief It is a story not just for a family suffering through trauma, but everyone who intersects with them Advice on how to approach, when, or even whether, people who are in treatment, in pain, or caring for loved ones in pain, is offered with each of the 35 short chapters, as well as in an ending segment, Things We Learned.The Coopers rejoiced when their daughter Bethany, a valedictorian and caring, resourceful young woman, went to college The first three years were on task, as expected The fourth was a strange struggle for her, as well as inexplicable changes in her personality An attempt at independent living and work across country failed, as did a dream job at home Drugs were ruled out, as was a psychotic break Physical tests done after a bizarre episode at home which resulted in a police pick up and subsequent several day stay in a hospital psychiatric unit revealed the devastating news that Bethany had cancer in her brain.While the author s training as a nurse helped her understand the physical issues involved with treatment, and that there would be no recovery, the emotional distress for the family and friends is never something anyone can prepare for This is a book for anyone to read, whether caregiver, friend, or family of someone going through a loss, or if you ve had or are facing loss, you will find some comfort and great advice


  4. Sharon Paavola Sharon Paavola says:

    Bethany s Calendar is one book everyone needs to read Elaine Marie Cooper bares her aching soul as she watches what cancer does to her twenty three year old daughter Her writing creates the feeling that you are there with her in the room as every scene takes place Each chapter begins with a section of Bethany s diary written well before the cancer begins You find that she is an articulate young woman with an immense desire to live for her Lord You learn to love her and despise the tumors in Bethany s Calendar is one book everyone needs to read Elaine Marie Cooper bares her aching soul as she watches what cancer does to her twenty three year old daughter Her writing creates the feeling that you are there with her in the room as every scene takes place Each chapter begins with a section of Bethany s diary written well before the cancer begins You find that she is an articulate young woman with an immense desire to live for her Lord You learn to love her and despise the tumors in her brain The chapters end with scripture that helped her mom move through what had just transpired plus scripture or helps for others in the same situations, such as friends and family The author describes how her husband and two sons traveled this difficult journey beside her as they all care for Bethany The book moves quickly yet describes with detail the trauma that unfolds Throughout the book and at the end there are sections of advice for those who will also travel this unwanted road You won t regret reading Bethany s Calendar I copied a sentence from the last few paragraphs to send to a friend who is in a challenging trial It spoke to the deepest part of my soul Never fear the tears only fear missing out on God s will for your life I received a copy of this book from the author for an honest review which I have given


  5. RJ Thesman RJ Thesman says:

    In her current release, Bethany s Calendar, author Elaine Marie Cooper writes part memoir, part family scrapbook as the mother of a child with a terminal illness Although heartbroken, Cooper remains true to her faith while writing authentically about her challenges Dealing with the emotional roller coaster of caregiving, struggling with medical bills and seeking the best treatment for her daughter, Cooper includes practical tips for other caregivers and Bible verses for fellow believers Coo In her current release, Bethany s Calendar, author Elaine Marie Cooper writes part memoir, part family scrapbook as the mother of a child with a terminal illness Although heartbroken, Cooper remains true to her faith while writing authentically about her challenges Dealing with the emotional roller coaster of caregiving, struggling with medical bills and seeking the best treatment for her daughter, Cooper includes practical tips for other caregivers and Bible verses for fellow believers Cooper never falters to truthfully report the realistic demands of caregiving and the despair she often battles She continues to underscore the importance of dealing with the reality of terminal illness while acknowledging that miracles do still happen.It is the miracle of Bethany s life and God s role in it that Cooper seeks to emphasize and within Bethany s Calendar, Cooper has managed to voice the treasure of Bethany even while dealing with her own grief.A final quote encourages the reader to Never fear the tears Only fear missing out on God s will for your life


  6. Judy Judy says:

    A Remarkable Journey Author Elaine Marie Cooper took me on a journey that I have experienced before While reading this heart breaking story about Bethany I was right there with the author living it all over again having lost my husband to brain cancer in May of 2003.As a reader my emotions were all over the place I don t know how anyone can read this book without coming away knowing that Bethany was one of God s beautiful children Beautiful in so many ways As a follower of Jesus Christ, I kn A Remarkable Journey Author Elaine Marie Cooper took me on a journey that I have experienced before While reading this heart breaking story about Bethany I was right there with the author living it all over again having lost my husband to brain cancer in May of 2003.As a reader my emotions were all over the place I don t know how anyone can read this book without coming away knowing that Bethany was one of God s beautiful children Beautiful in so many ways As a follower of Jesus Christ, I know where I will be spending eternity when I die The hope we have of being in Heaven some day is very exciting.To the author I just want to say, this is a remarkable book and for those who aren t believer s just perhaps something you ve said or how Bethany lived her life will bring another soul into the Kingdom of God Thank you for sharing Bethany s story with us


  7. April McGowan April McGowan says:

    Bethany s Calendar is a touching memoir of a mother s last days with her dying daughter It s woven with raw emotion, tragic moments, and unbreakable threads of Godly hope Each chapter begins in Bethany s own words as excerpts from her journal, continues with the author s heartfelt, hard earned experiences and memories, and closes with a thought or devotional, always pointing back to The Comforter of our sorrows for strength needed for the next day or the next hour A good book entertains, but Bethany s Calendar is a touching memoir of a mother s last days with her dying daughter It s woven with raw emotion, tragic moments, and unbreakable threads of Godly hope Each chapter begins in Bethany s own words as excerpts from her journal, continues with the author s heartfelt, hard earned experiences and memories, and closes with a thought or devotional, always pointing back to The Comforter of our sorrows for strength needed for the next day or the next hour A good book entertains, but an excellent book changes how we feel and offers a new perspective that unobtrusively works its way into our consciousness This is such a book A must read for anyone dealing with cancer or chronic illness in their own lives or the lives of a loved one


  8. Becky Smith Becky Smith says:

    This is a powerful, powerful book This real life story has a tremendous depth to it, like few other books I have read I admit to crying through most of it, although there are a few light hearted moments But the depth of the agony struggle is almost overwhelming, and I could relate to so much in it The book is filled with practical tips and so much wisdom, besides being filled with faith and hope The excerpts from Bethany s Diary at the start of each chapter grabbed my heart every time T This is a powerful, powerful book This real life story has a tremendous depth to it, like few other books I have read I admit to crying through most of it, although there are a few light hearted moments But the depth of the agony struggle is almost overwhelming, and I could relate to so much in it The book is filled with practical tips and so much wisdom, besides being filled with faith and hope The excerpts from Bethany s Diary at the start of each chapter grabbed my heart every time This line is particularly comforting He is so good to give me this time on the mountain so that I will be able to get through the valleys that lie ahead This book should be in every church library, and I would highly recommend it to anyone


  9. Joy Kidney Joy Kidney says:

    What a poignant memorial for a family who lost their beloved daughter Bethany to cancer, capturing her delight while alive and even as she suffered, and as the whole family watched that lovely life ebb away Each chapter ends with a note to self and a note to others, offering comfort from the scriptures and helpful hints that Elaine Cooper, herself a registered nurse, learned while on this unwanted journey of exhaustion and grief This precious book would be useful to anyone having to naviga What a poignant memorial for a family who lost their beloved daughter Bethany to cancer, capturing her delight while alive and even as she suffered, and as the whole family watched that lovely life ebb away Each chapter ends with a note to self and a note to others, offering comfort from the scriptures and helpful hints that Elaine Cooper, herself a registered nurse, learned while on this unwanted journey of exhaustion and grief This precious book would be useful to anyone having to navigate through a devastating illness with a loved one, or anyone who knows someone who is It is also a reminder that, this side of Heaven, even though we experience some of the worst times in life, there are reminders of God s redemption


  10. Debbie Debbie says:

    Bethany s Calendar is a five star Non Fiction account in the life of a young lady and her family s journey with Brain Cancer I know whatever I say about this book it will not be enough or give it justice When Elaine Cooper asked for reviewers to read it and write an honest review, I responded because my mother has cancer, lung, breast, bone and it was in her lymph nodes, though the breast cancer is in remission now Bethany, Elaine s daughter, in her early twenties, had Brain Cancer and ev Bethany s Calendar is a five star Non Fiction account in the life of a young lady and her family s journey with Brain Cancer I know whatever I say about this book it will not be enough or give it justice When Elaine Cooper asked for reviewers to read it and write an honest review, I responded because my mother has cancer, lung, breast, bone and it was in her lymph nodes, though the breast cancer is in remission now Bethany, Elaine s daughter, in her early twenties, had Brain Cancer and even through the cancers were different I felt I could learn something and maybe help her and my sisters and other family members learn to cope and understand mom and her feelings better as well as how to deal with the illness itself I really hope others are helped by Elaine reliving her pain and sharing this book with other families struggling with this critical disease.This book is very well written and truly a story from a mother s heart Elaine is a nurse but this isn t written from a nurse s perception, I have read other books about people that had cancer but they were kinda of technical and Bethany s Calendar is not technical at all but a real story about a mother s and caregiver s struggles and heartaches dealing with cancer.There were times I was literally crying while reading this story,such as this example from my Facebook post I am setting in the dentist s office and trying not to cry I am reading a PDF file of Bethany s Calendar by Elaine Marie Cooper Author It is so heartbreaking but I love the notes to self and notes to others after each chapter And if I start to cry hope the others in the office don t think I m strange but oh well life is like that and cancer is real and those of us that are affected by it do cry.No, Bethany s story isn t mom s story but any one going through cancer or taking care of someone that does have cancer or another critical illness have similar heartaches and thoughts I felt the author shared an honest and trueful account and even admitted that sometimes angry feelings were expressed I want to share oneFacebook post I posted while reading Bethany s Calendar Reading Bethany s Calendar by Elaine Cooper and I really am struck by this note to others at the end of one chapter Don t delay visiting those who the Lord draws you to see You never know if it might be your last opportunity to be with them this side of eternity This is my thought after reading the above note How many times how we felt the urge to call or go see someone and we don t follow though and then we get that call that let s us know it is too late I encourage everyone to read Bethany s Calendar whether you or someone you know is struggling with a critical illness or not, chances are you will soon.I was given a pdf file by the author for an honest review and I have just ordered copies for my family for Christmas